October 8, 2015

Comparison is the thief of joy

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Have you ever felt like you were working hard, but going nowhere. Have you ever been on Instagram or Facebook and seen other people’s posts and think, God, when would I get there? I have been blogging for some time now and I felt like I wasn’t progressing. I have been on social media way too much it would seem.

(STORY TIME) I saw one of my friends who started her blog around the same time as me, she has over 40k followers on Instagram and her blog was way cooler than mine and she had a bigger audience, better pictures, everything. I began to compare myself to her and her achievements, questioning my entire life, my existence. I know it sounds dramatic but sometimes when you see other people who were in the same playing field as you and doing better than you, you can get emo. I realized that my dilemma in turn could help someone that may be feeling the same way. I mean that’s why I created this blog in the first place.

Sometimes you might feel that you’re not where you want to be or that your dreams and aspirations don’t match up with your reality. But, don’t you EVER compare yourself with another person because it will kill you. It will make you believe that you’re not good enough and discredits all your accomplishments thus far.

It’s one thing to look at someone’s work and say oh this is nice and get inspo from it but never compare their chapter 2 to your introduction. I’ve learned that the hard way. This is your race and your race alone. You were created for a purpose only you can fulfill, ONLY YOU. So while you’re jelling (being jealous) about someone else you can be working on your own ish, ya feel me?

I sometimes think, oh man, if I had this new camera or this new makeup thing, I would be a better makeup artist or my blog would look nicer. Or maybe for you, its if I could (enter thing you really wished you could do or have here) I would be so much better. And the truth is, you got to learn to work with what you’ve got right now and own it! When I started my blog, I didn’t even own a camera, or a fancy phone like I do now. But I started and I’m not where I want to be, but I’m on my way.

You have your own race to run. So put your blinders on and run it to the best of your ability. Use people only to inspire and get rid of creative jealousy. Create your own. And that’s not to say that you don’t seek to better yourself. You don’t have to do it like person A or person B because everyone is different and unique.

So when I feel unmotivated or down, I listen to Lauren Daigle “Trust in You”. Here’s the lyrics and I hope it can inspire you like it did to me.

“Trust In You”

Letting go of every single dream
I lay each one down at Your feet 
Every moment of my wandering
Never changes what You seeI’ve tried to win this war I confess
My hands are weary I need Your rest
Mighty Warrior, King of the fight
No matter what I face, You’re by my sideWhen You don’t move the mountains I’m needing You to move
When You don’t part the waters I wish I could walk through
When You don’t give the answers as I cry out to You
I will trust, I will trust, I will trust in You!

Truth is, You know what tomorrow brings 
There’s not a day ahead You have not seen
So, in all things be my life and breath
I want what You want Lord and nothing less

When You don’t move the mountains I’m needing You to move
When You don’t part the waters I wish I could walk through
When You don’t give the answers as I cry out to You
I will trust, I will trust, I will trust in You!

You are my strength and comfort
You are my steady hand
You are my firm foundation; the rock on which I stand

Your ways are always higher
Your plans are always good
There’s not a place where I’ll go, You’ve not already stood

When You don’t move the mountains I’m needing You to move
When You don’t part the waters I wish I could walk through
When You don’t give the answers as I cry out to You
I will trust, I will trust, I will trust in You!

I will trust in You!
I will trust in You!
I will trust in You!


Tips to prevent comparison: 
1. Get off social media 
2. Start doing whatever it is you’ve been wanting to do 
3. Be inspired and stop creative jealousy 
4. Know that God has a time and season for everything, so trust His timing– it’s perfect. 

If this helped you, drop me note.

Love,

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10 thoughts on “Comparison is the thief of joy

  1. LislovesTruth

    Girl, this is exactly what I was meditating on today. As a fellow blogger, I know this struggle TOO well. I started my blog a while ago too and it’s hard not to wish that I had better equipment, or whatever I think would give me a better following like other bloggers in my field. What you say here is true, though. We all have our own race to run and in due time we will come into our own. I faithfully read your blogs, and they are enlightening and high-quality. Don’t give up. Do you, and success will come.

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  2. Mary-Joe

    This was a very inspiring read! Exactly how i feel at times at school. Everything in God’s time! Good things definitely comes to those who wait. xo

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